Braxton’s Next Big Step: Starting Pre-K 4

Last year, I shared a milestone that was both exciting and emotional for our family: my son Braxton starting Pre-K for the very first time. If you missed that story, you can read it here.

This year, we’ve hit another milestone, Braxton has officially started Pre-K 4. And wow, what a difference a year makes! The growth, changes, and even the challenges we’ve seen over the past year have been eye-opening.

The Growth We’ve Seen

In just one year, Braxton has blossomed in ways we couldn’t have imagined.

• Advanced vocabulary: His teachers continue to remark on how well he communicates. We’ve always been intentional about speaking to him in full sentences and encouraging conversation, and it shows. He comes home using new words and phrases daily, and sometimes even surprises us with how articulate he’s become.

• Confidence in the classroom: Last year, he was the “new kid” navigating school for the first time. This year, he’s stepped into the role of class leader. He’s more comfortable, more vocal, and even helps his younger classmates when he can.

• Love of learning: From storytelling to counting games, Braxton has fully embraced the joy of learning. It’s such a gift to watch his curiosity unfold in real time.

The Nuances of School Life

But with the positives come the realities that every parent experiences when their child spends more time in a school environment.

• Picking up habits from peers: While he’s learned a lot of great things from his classmates, there are also moments where he brings home less-than-ideal habits. Whether it’s a new phrase we don’t love or testing boundaries because “other kids do it,” it’s part of the social learning curve.

• Behavioral changes: We’ve noticed that with the excitement (and sometimes overstimulation) of school, Braxton comes home more tired, sometimes cranky, and occasionally tests limits more than before. It’s a reminder that school is a big adjustment, even when it’s not his first year.

• Balancing structure and freedom: Over the summer, we had a more relaxed routine with plenty of free play. Transitioning back into the structured rhythm of school took a little effort, not just for him, but for all of us as a family.

Transitioning Into Pre-K 4

Starting Pre-K 4 feels different from last year. It’s less about if he can handle school and more about how he’s growing through it. The transition back after summer break was bumpy at times, after months of looser routines, getting up early, following a schedule, and doing “schoolwork” again required patience. But now that he’s settled in, we’re seeing how much he thrives in an environment that challenges him academically and socially.

Reflections as a Parent

This journey has reminded me of something important: parenting through transitions is not just about helping your child adapt, it’s about adjusting ourselves too. The structure of the school year affects the entire household, from how we plan our mornings to how we manage our own work-life balance.

That’s why I created resources like my Time Management E-book and Balancing Act Blueprint for Busy Professionals because whether you’re a working parent or juggling multiple roles, having systems in place makes these seasons of change less overwhelming.

Watching Braxton step into Pre-K 4 has been a mix of pride, joy, and, at times, challenges. He’s not the same little boy who walked into school for the first time last year. He’s more independent, more confident, and yes, a little sassier too.

And that’s the beauty of it. School is shaping him in ways that go beyond academics. It’s helping him grow into who he is and giving us, as parents, a front-row seat to the process.

If your child is starting school this year or moving into a new grade, know that the transition is always layered with highs, lows, and everything in between. Embrace it all, and give yourself (and your child) grace in the process.

Back-to-School Transition Checklist

Helping your child (and yourself) ease into a new school year

✅ Re-establish routines

• Set a consistent bedtime/wake-up time at least 1–2 weeks before school starts.

• Lay out clothes and pack lunches/snacks the night before to reduce morning stress.

✅ Prepare the environment

• Create a designated spot for backpacks, shoes, and school supplies.

• Stock up on healthy, easy-to-grab snacks for after school.

✅ Communicate expectations

• Talk through the new school routine with your child — what mornings will look like, what happens after school, etc.

• Practice transitions like “getting ready to leave the house” to set clear expectations.

✅ Emotional check-ins

• Encourage your child to share feelings about school (excitement, nervousness, etc.).

• Use bedtime as a moment to connect and reflect on the day.

✅ Balance structure + freedom

• Leave space for downtime/play after school — kids need time to decompress.

• Resist overscheduling — give your child room to adjust before adding too many activities.

✅ Parent support

• Give yourself grace — transitions are just as demanding on parents.

• Revisit your own systems for time management (this is where your Balancing Act Blueprint and Time Management E-book can naturally plug in).

• Lean on community whether it’s friends, family, or like-minded professionals navigating the same stage.

What If Work Wasn’t the Center of Your Life?

A few years ago, I wouldn’t have even asked this question. Work was the center of my life, without hesitation or apology. Every calendar decision, every to-do list, every ounce of energy was filtered through the question:
“How does this help me grow my career or business(es)?”

That made sense at the time. I had a career to build and private practice to run. A brand to build. A reputation to maintain. Employees to support. And to be honest, there’s a sense of pride and identity that comes with all of that.

But somewhere along the way, life changed.

Motherhood Reorders Everything

When I became a mom, things started to shift. It didn’t happen overnight, not in a dramatic “aha” moment, but slowly. Subtly. Then all at once.

First, it was one child. Then came twins. Suddenly I wasn’t just a business owner trying to juggle a packed schedule or manage a team . I was someone’s safe place. Someone’s source of comfort at 2 a.m. and 5 a.m. and 6:15 a.m. I was a mother managing wake-ups, toddler meltdowns, preschool prep, and the soft, sacred work of just being there. Babies don’t care about business hours or launch dates. They don’t care what your to-do list says. They care about presence. They have a way of commanding your attention in the most honest, non-negotiable way. They refocus your energy. You see what truly matters. And before you know it, that meeting or email or "urgent" call doesn’t feel so urgent anymore.

It forced me to stop and ask:

What am I doing all of this for, really?

Because if I build an empire but miss out on the softness of these early years… was it worth it?

Burnout Isn’t Always About Failure

Somewhere along the way, I realized I was burnt out. Not because I was failing, but because I had succeeded at something that no longer aligned with the life I was building.

And I’m not alone. I live and work in Washington, D.C., patients and colleagues alike are sharing stories of job loss, federal program shutdowns, families moving back in together to survive rising costs. We’re all being stretched thin emotionally, financially, and maybe even spiritually.

This is a season that’s demanding realignment. A season that invites us to slow down and ask better questions.

One book that helped me find language for this feeling is The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest. It explores how we often sabotage ourselves through overwork and misplaced values and how healing comes from climbing your personal mountain with compassion, not hustle.

The Case for Slow Work

I’ve been deeply inspired by what Myleik Teele and Matt Gottesman recently shared in their respective writings about slow work. Myleik says she’s not interested in rushing anything anymore. She calls herself a “crockpot,” and I love that. Because the things that really matter: clarity, confidence, deep connection - don’t come fast. They come with simmering. They come with sitting in discomfort. They come with letting go of urgency and trusting that what’s meant for you won’t miss you.

Matt echoed this idea in a different way. He talked about how speed has become the default metric for value in our society. We want instant responses, instant success, instant meaning.

But what’s real takes time. What lasts takes intention.
Fast work creates noise.
Slow work builds substance.
Soul. Sustainability. Presence.

This message echoes the heart of another book I recommended to my community:
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.
This book argues that hustle culture is costing us our spiritual, emotional, and relational health and that deep peace only comes when we slow down. It’s not a productivity hack; it’s a lifestyle shift. One I’m still learning to practice.

A Life That Can Hold You

That’s what I’m building now. Not a bigger life.
A life that can hold me.

Hold my children.
Hold my purpose.
Hold my joy and exhaustion at the same time.
Hold my healing.

I don’t want a life that looks good but feels hollow. I want one that breathes, even if that means producing less, posting less, rushing less. Even if that means saying no to opportunities that would’ve once thrilled me.
Even if that means making work one part of my identity, not the whole.

An Invitation to Realign

Maybe you're feeling this too. Maybe success doesn’t look the way it used to. Maybe you’ve achieved things that still left you feeling tired, unclear, or unfulfilled.

I’ll leave you with this:

The world will keep telling you to speed up.
Your body, your spirit, and your family might be telling you to slow down.

Listen.

Let this question breathe.
What would your life look like if it was built for you. Not your job title, not the expectations of others, but you?

It’s not an easy shift. But it’s one I believe in with my whole heart.
And I’m making it, one quiet step at a time.

Braxton's Big Milestone: Turning 3 and Starting Pre-K

This year has been a major milestone for my little boy, Braxton. He turned 3 and officially started pre-K in August! The transition from home to school has been quite an adventure, not just for him but for our entire family. I’m sure many parents can relate to the whirlwind of emotions and adjustments that come with this phase.

For the first three years of his life, Braxton was home with us, and we made a very intentional decision not to enroll him in daycare. Instead, I retired my mom to be his caretaker, and she’s been with him since birth. With both Reggie and I having demanding schedules as dental professionals, we felt this was the best option for our family. I worked four days a week while Reggie, who’s semi-retired, worked three days a week. We maintained a good balance of time with our patients and plenty of quality time with Braxton, which was a priority for us.

It’s important to note that our decision to keep him out of daycare was purely based on our unique situation. We have nothing against daycare and would’ve gladly gone that route if we didn’t have the choice to have my mom care for him. Every family has to do what works best for them!

From Home to Pre-K: How Braxton's Thriving

When the time came for Braxton to start school, we were, of course, a bit anxious about how the transition would go. After all, this was the first time he would be in a structured school environment with other kids, after spending his early years with close family. But, to our relief and joy, he’s transitioned beautifully.

On his very first day, his teacher commented on how impressed she was with his vocabulary! Early on, Reggie and I decided not to use baby talk with him. We wanted to help develop his communication skills as naturally and maturely as possible, and it seems like it’s paid off. He’s been soaking up his new surroundings, making new friends, and bringing home so many stories and new things he’s learned. We’re proud of how well he’s handled it all.

5 Tips for Transitioning from Home to Pre-K

If you’re preparing for a similar transition, whether your child is going to pre-K, daycare, or kindergarten, I know how nerve-wracking it can be. Here are a few tips that helped us (and Braxton) manage this significant change:

1. Talk About School in Advance
   One of the best ways to ease the transition is to prepare your child mentally. Start talking about school in a positive light well before their first day. We made sure to describe it as a fun, exciting place where he’d make friends and learn new things. Braxton was excited before he even walked through the door.

2. Set Up Playdates
   If possible, arrange playdates with other children before school starts. This can help ease their social anxiety. Since Braxton hadn’t spent much time around kids his age, we introduced him to other kids in our circle, which made the transition easier for him once he entered a classroom full of new faces.

3. Establish a Routine Early
   Starting a consistent morning and evening routine a few weeks before school helps prepare your child for the structured environment. We made sure Braxton got used to waking up early and going to bed at a set time to avoid any shock to his system when pre-K began.

4. Emphasize Independence
   Encourage your child to do simple tasks independently, like dressing themselves or putting on their shoes. This builds confidence. We practiced this with Braxton, and it made him feel more secure on his first day knowing he could handle the little things on his own.

5. Stay Positive (Even if You’re Nervous!)
   Kids pick up on our emotions, so staying positive and enthusiastic is key. If you’re feeling anxious, they might too. We kept it light and fun, hyping up his “big boy” adventure. Staying upbeat about the change helped him approach it with excitement instead of fear.

Final Thoughts
This transition to school life is one of the first big steps your child will take, and it can feel like a big step for us parents too. Trust that they will rise to the occasion, and remember that it’s okay to feel emotional about it. Your little one is growing up, and it’s a beautiful thing to witness.

As for Braxton, I’m so excited to see all that he’ll learn and experience in this new chapter. And if you’re going through this transition with your child, I’d love to hear about your experience! How are you handling it, and how is your child adjusting?

PS: If you’re navigating big transitions like balancing work and parenthood or even thinking of starting your own business, check out my e-book, From Idea to Profit. It’s packed with actionable steps to help you turn your business dreams into reality. Plus, when you purchase, you’ll receive a free side hustle guide and workbook to get you started right away.

The Entrepreneur Trap: Designing a Business That Supports Your Life

Justin Welch once said, "The happiest entrepreneurs I know aren't the richest. They're the ones who built a business that complements their lives rather than consuming it." This statement resonates deeply with many of us who have ventured into entrepreneurship, only to find ourselves ensnared in a trap of our own making. The entrepreneur trap is the misconception that success is measured solely by revenue. In reality, true success lies in the freedom and fulfillment that comes from designing a business that supports your life.

Design Your Business to Support Your Life

1. Work When You're Most Productive Understanding your natural rhythms and working during your peak productivity times can make a world of difference. Some people are morning larks, while others are night owls. Identify when you are most focused and energetic, and schedule your most important tasks during those periods. This not only boosts efficiency but also ensures that you have time for other important aspects of your life.

2. Pursue a Mission That Inspires You Building a business around a mission that truly inspires you is crucial. When your work aligns with your passions and values, it becomes more than just a job; it becomes a source of motivation and satisfaction. This intrinsic motivation can carry you through the inevitable challenges and setbacks that come with entrepreneurship.

3. Automate or Delegate the Rest To prevent your business from consuming your life, it's essential to automate or delegate tasks that don't require your personal touch. Leveraging technology for automation can streamline repetitive processes, while delegating tasks to competent team members or freelancers can free up your time for strategic planning and personal pursuits.

Success Is About Freedom and Fulfillment

Success is often measured in terms of revenue and profit margins, but true success is much broader. It encompasses the freedom to live life on your terms and the fulfillment that comes from achieving personal and professional goals. Here are some key elements to consider:

1. Work-Life Balance Achieving a healthy work-life balance is vital for long-term success and happiness. This means setting boundaries between work and personal life, ensuring you have time to relax, recharge, and spend quality time with loved ones.

2. Financial Freedom While financial success is important, it's not the only metric that matters. Financial freedom is about having enough to support your desired lifestyle without constant stress and worry. It's about making smart financial decisions that allow you to enjoy life now, not just in the distant future.

3. Personal Fulfillment Personal fulfillment comes from pursuing passions, nurturing relationships, and making a positive impact on the world. It's about feeling a sense of purpose and satisfaction in your daily activities, both in and out of the business.

In the pursuit of entrepreneurial success, it's easy to fall into the trap of equating revenue with happiness. However, the happiest entrepreneurs are those who design their businesses to complement their lives rather than consume them. By working during your most productive times, pursuing an inspiring mission, and automating or delegating the rest, you can create a business that supports your life and brings true success in the form of freedom and fulfillment.

How Motherhood Is Just Like Running a Business

As a mother and business owner, I’ve come to realize that the skills required to excel in both roles are strikingly similar. The multitasking, the planning, the emotional investment, and the sheer determination needed to succeed as a mother mirror the qualities necessary for running a successful business. Owning and operating an orthodontics practice, an online candle company, and a blog that has blossomed into a small business has given me unique insights into how motherhood and entrepreneurship intersect. Let’s explore the parallels between these two demanding yet rewarding roles.

The Start-Up Phase: Bringing a New Life (or Business) into the World

Motherhood: From the moment you find out you’re expecting, your life is consumed by planning and preparing. You read books, attend classes, and seek advice from experienced mothers. You set up a nursery, buy essential items, and mentally prepare for the monumental task ahead. The start-up phase is filled with anticipation, excitement, and a fair share of anxiety.

Business: Starting a business is much the same. You conduct market research, create a business plan, and seek advice from mentors and experts. You set up your office or storefront, invest in necessary equipment, and mentally brace yourself for the challenges ahead. Whether it’s my orthodontics practice, UnOrthoDoc Candle Company, or The UnOrthoDoc blog, the start-up phase for each venture was marked by a mix of excitement and nervous anticipation.

Multitasking: The Art of Juggling

Motherhood: Once your baby arrives, the real juggling begins. You’re constantly balancing feeding, diaper changes, naps, and playtime. As your child grows, you add school runs, extracurricular activities, and social events to the mix. Multitasking becomes second nature as you manage your child’s needs alongside household chores and personal responsibilities.

Business: Running a business requires similar multitasking skills. In my orthodontics practice, I juggle patient appointments, staff management, and administrative duties. With UnOrthoDoc Candle Company, I balance product development, marketing, and order fulfillment. The UnOrthoDoc blog involves content creation, social media management, and community engagement. Multitasking is essential to keep everything running smoothly.

Planning and Organization: The Backbone of Success

Motherhood: Successful motherhood hinges on effective planning and organization. From meal planning and scheduling doctor’s appointments to organizing playdates and family vacations, a mother’s calendar is always full. Staying organized ensures that everything runs smoothly and that your child’s needs are met without constant chaos.

Business: In business, planning and organization are crucial. In my orthodontics practice, I plan patient schedules, treatment plans, and staff rotations. For UnOrthoDoc Candle Company, I organize production schedules, inventory management, and marketing campaigns. The UnOrthoDoc blog requires editorial calendars, content planning, and event coordination. Effective planning and organization are the backbone of any successful venture.

Problem-Solving: Navigating Challenges with Grace

Motherhood: Motherhood is fraught with unexpected challenges. From dealing with a sick child to navigating (anticipated) teenage rebellion, mothers must be adept problem-solvers. Finding creative solutions to everyday problems and staying calm under pressure are essential skills for any mother.

Business: Similarly, business ownership is a constant exercise in problem-solving. In my orthodontics practice, I encounter everything from equipment malfunctions to patient concerns. UnOrthoDoc Candle Company faces supply chain issues, production hiccups, and customer service challenges. The UnOrthoDoc blog involves technical glitches, content dilemmas, and community management. Navigating these challenges with grace is crucial for maintaining success.

Emotional Investment: Heart and Soul

Motherhood: The emotional investment in motherhood is profound. You pour your heart and soul into raising your child, nurturing their growth, and ensuring their well-being. The highs and lows of motherhood can be intense, but the rewards are immeasurable.

Business: Running a business also requires significant emotional investment. My orthodontics practice is more than just a job; it’s a passion. UnOrthoDoc Candle Company and blog are labors of love that reflect my values and creativity. Investing emotionally in these ventures drives me to work harder, despite the inevitable setbacks.

Delegation: Trusting Others

Motherhood: As children grow, mothers learn the importance of delegation. Whether it’s asking a partner to help with bedtime routines or trusting a nanny/babysitter, delegation allows mothers to recharge and focus on other responsibilities.

Business: In business, delegation is equally important. In my orthodontics practice, I rely on a dedicated team to assist with patient care and administrative tasks. UnOrthoDoc Candle Company benefits from collaborative efforts in production and marketing. The UnOrthoDoc blog thrives on contributions from guest writers and community members. Trusting others and delegating tasks ensures that the business can grow and succeed without becoming overwhelming.

Adaptability: Embracing Change

Motherhood: Motherhood teaches adaptability. Children grow and change, and mothers must constantly adjust their approaches to meet new challenges. Flexibility and a willingness to learn are essential for navigating the evolving landscape of motherhood.

Business: Business ownership demands adaptability as well. In my orthodontics practice, I stay abreast of new technologies and treatment methods. UnOrthoDoc Candle Company adapts to market trends and customer feedback. The UnOrthoDoc blog evolves with changing content demands and audience interests. Embracing change and being open to new ideas are key to sustained success.

Finding Balance: The Ongoing Quest

Motherhood: Finding balance in motherhood is an ongoing quest. Balancing the needs of your child with personal aspirations, career goals, and self-care is a delicate act. Prioritizing and setting boundaries help in maintaining a semblance of balance.

Business: In business, balance is equally elusive. Running an orthodontics practice, an online candle company, and a blog requires careful time management and boundary-setting. Ensuring that each venture receives adequate attention while also making time for family and personal well-being is a continuous effort.

Conclusion: Motherhood and Business – Two Sides of the Same Coin

Motherhood and business ownership are two sides of the same coin. Both require multitasking, planning, problem-solving, emotional investment, delegation, adaptability, and a relentless pursuit of balance. As a mother and entrepreneur, I’ve found that the skills honed in one role often enhance the other. The journey of motherhood has made me a better business owner, and the challenges of running a business have equipped me with tools to navigate the complexities of motherhood.

By embracing the similarities between these two roles, we can draw strength from our experiences and apply valuable lessons across different areas of our lives. Whether nurturing a child or growing a business, the journey is filled with ups and downs, but the rewards are immeasurable. Let’s celebrate the parallels between motherhood and business and continue to thrive in both realms.

3 Years of Motherhood: Navigating New Phases and Balancing Life's Demands

My son, Braxton, just turned 3, and it's astonishing to reflect on how much has changed over the last three years. When he turned 2, I thought I was getting the hang of motherhood and thought by now I could ease back into focusing more on my career. However, this past year has shown me that each phase brings new challenges and rewards. Instead of finding it easier to balance work and family, I've been leaning more toward family life and the idea of being a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), or perhaps even semi-retired like my husband has crossed my mind several times. Each day, I’m taking things step by step and trusting God to guide my decisions.

Reflecting on the Past Year

The past year has been transformative. When Braxton turned 2, I was amazed by his rapid growth and development. Now, at 3, he is even more curious, independent, and hilarious! Watching him explore and learn has brought me so much joy, but it also means I'm constantly adjusting my expectations and parenting strategies.

Before Braxton, my world revolved around my career and personal goals. Now, my priorities have shifted significantly. My family’s well-being and happiness are my primary focus. I’ve become more patient, compassionate, and selfless, but also more attuned to my own needs for self-care and support.

The Juggling Act of Motherhood and Career

Balancing my role as a mother and an orthodontist-practice owner has been a complex juggling act. Before motherhood, my career was my main focus. I loved growing my practice, helping my patients, working on professional development, and enjoying spontaneous vacations. However, motherhood has reshaped my priorities and time management.

I’ve learned to delegate more, put down things that aren’t truly necessary, and rely on my team to keep the practice running smoothly, even when I’m not there. Efficiency has become key in managing my work hours, allowing me to spend quality time with my family.

Embracing Family Life

This past year, I've found myself more drawn more to family life. The idea of becoming a stay-at-home mom or a semi-retired dentist has crossed my mind multiple times. Being fully present for Braxton’s milestones, jokes, and everyday moments has become more important to me than ever. I read a quote the other day that said: “75% of all the time you will ever spend with a child is complete by the time they reach 12 years old. And by the time they turn 18, well, 90% of your parent-child time together is already spent.” This made me incredibly sad but also was fuel to really prioritize parenthood.

I’ve started to say no to non-essential commitments and focus on activities that bring joy and fulfillment. Prioritizing self-care has also been crucial in maintaining my energy and presence for my family.

Burnout in Dentistry: A Special Challenge

Burnout is a significant issue in many professions, and dentistry is no exception. The physical and emotional demands of the job, coupled with the responsibility of running a practice, can be overwhelming. Over the past year, I’ve felt this pressure more intensely as I try to balance professional and personal responsibilities.

Recognizing the signs of burnout early and addressing them is essential. For me, this has meant considering a reduced work schedule and exploring the possibility of a more flexible, family-focused lifestyle.

Practical Ways I am Combating and Avoid Burnout

1. Setting Boundaries: Clearly defining work hours and personal time. Ensuring that I have time dedicated to family and self-care.

2. Delegating and Collaborating: Relying on my team at work and sharing responsibilities at home. Not being afraid to ask for help.

3. Practicing Self-Care: Regularly engaging in activities that rejuvenate, whether it’s exercise, hobbies, or quiet time alone.

4. Staying Connected: Maintaining a support network of friends, family, and professional peers who can provide encouragement and advice.

Trusting the Journey

Each phase of life brings new challenges and opportunities. This past year, I’ve learned that balancing career and family is an ongoing process, not a destination. Trusting God to guide my decisions has provided me with peace and direction. While the idea of stepping back from my career to focus more on family is daunting, it’s also filled with possibilities for growth and deeper connections.

As I navigate these changes, I’m taking things day by day, grateful for the journey and excited for what lies ahead.

New Mom Must-Haves: Showering Love with Practical Gifts

I have officially entered the phase of life where all my friends, acquaintances, and colleagues are married, and it seems like there's a baby shower almost every month. As the invitations pile up, so can the pressure to find the perfect gift for the new parents-to-be. This is why today, I've compiled a list of some seriously stellar ideas for baby shower gifts that new moms will adore.

Baby showers can be a fun time for everyone: cake, party games, gender reveals, and all the fun things, But baby showers can also be stressful for the guest who has no idea what to gift the new parents. So, Let's talk strategy - First off, always check if the parents-to-be have a registry. Trust me, this will help you in making sure your gift hits the mark. And speaking from experience, the best baby shower gifts are often those that new parents have requested or recommended. If you’re looking for some inspiration, below are some of our picks for the best baby shower gifts and ideas for showering the parents-to-be.

1. Swaddle Blankets: Because who doesn't love a cozy, snugly baby burrito? These blankets are not just for swaddling; they double up as nursing covers and sunshades for those outdoor strolls.

2. Sleep Sacks: Sleep sacks are great! They keep baby snug and safe while eliminating the risk of loose blankets in the crib.

3. Baby Bottles: You can never go wrong with bottles, every baby needs them even if mom will breastfeed initially. Babylist has a bottle box so you contest out different types of bottles. I personally like Dr. Brown’s anti-colic bottles for my little.

4. Music: When creating a calming bedtime routine soft tunes are where it's at! Plus, studies show that music has lasting benefits for baby's development.

5. Stroller Organizer: Keep all those baby essentials within arm's reach with a handy stroller organizer. Super handy and essential when you're out and about.

6. Books: It's never too early to start building that home library. Plus, reading together is a beautiful bonding experience for parents and baby alike. I personally have a subscription with Literati for my little and he absolutely loves it!

7. Post-Partum & Self Care: Let's not forget about mom!(everybody seem to always forget us) A little self-care goes a long way in those early days, so offer a helping hand or a listening ear.

8. Tushbaby Hip Carrier: And last but certainly not least, my personal favorite – the Tushbaby hip carrier. Hassle-free carrying, goodbye to tired arms and back-aches!

So there you have it – my roundup of the best baby shower gifts for those new moms in your life. Remember, it's all about showing love, patience, and kindness during this exciting new chapter. Until next time, happy gifting and baby cuddling!

Designing Your Life with Purpose and Freedom

We often equate success with material wealth and possessions. It's easy to get caught up in the rat race of accumulation, especially here in the US. Whether you're climbing the corporate ladder in a 9-5 job or running your own business, the pressure to chase after money and status can feel overwhelming. However, there's a different approach—one that prioritizes intentional living and designing your life around what truly matters.

Intentional living is about aligning your actions and choices with your values and goals, rather than simply going through the motions dictated by societal norms or external expectations. It's about consciously crafting a life that brings you joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose, regardless of your financial situation or professional aspirations.

For those in a traditional 9-5 job, intentional living begins with a shift in mindset. Yes, it's important to invest wisely, save money for the future, and plan for financial security. However, true wealth is not measured solely by the size of your bank account or the number of possessions you own ( I know deep down you already know this). Instead of chasing after material wealth, focus on cultivating richness in experiences, relationships, and personal growth.

One key aspect of intentional living is redefining the purpose of work. Instead of viewing your job as a means to an end—a way to earn a paycheck so you can afford a lifestyle—consider how your work can contribute to your overall well-being and happiness. Rather than striving for a higher salary or a corner office, prioritize work that aligns with your values and allows you to make a meaningful impact in your community and/or the world.

For entrepreneurs and business owners, the principles of intentional living apply equally—if not more so. While it's natural to have financial goals and aspirations for your business, it's essential to remember that the purpose of entrepreneurship extends far beyond profit and wealth accumulation. Instead of chasing after luxuries like yachts or multiple vacation homes (even though nothing is wrong with that), focus on designing a business that provides you with the freedom to live life on your own terms.

This means starting with a lifestyle design goal rather than a revenue target. Ask yourself: What kind of life do I want to live? What activities bring me joy and fulfillment? How can my business support and enhance my desired lifestyle? By answering these questions, you can create a clear vision for the kind of life you want to lead and then reverse-engineer your business goals to align with that vision.

In practical terms, this might mean prioritizing time over money, building a business that allows you to work remotely or on a flexible schedule, and outsourcing tasks that don't align with your core strengths or bring you joy. It might mean setting boundaries around your work hours to ensure a healthy work-life balance, or investing in experiences like travel, personal development, or quality time with loved ones.

Ultimately, intentional living is about taking ownership of your life and intentionally designing it in a way that brings you fulfillment, freedom, and joy. It's about recognizing that true wealth is measured not by the size of your bank account, but by the richness of your experiences and the depth of your connections. By embracing intentional living, you can create a life that is authentically yours—one that reflects your values, passions, and purpose.

Discovering True Wealth: The New Rich

In a world often measured by financial wealth, the concept of true richness extends beyond bank accounts and possessions. It’s about acknowledging the overlooked treasures that enrich our lives, nurturing our spirits and granting us a sense of fulfillment. Welcome to "The New Rich," where abundance transcends monetary figures and instead resides in the simple yet profound aspects of existence.

What if our genuine wealth is rooted in the things we often take for granted? Imagine waking up to a sunrise, feeling the gentle morning breeze, or savoring the aroma of freshly brewed coffee. These simple pleasures, often overlooked in the rush of daily life, compose the fabric of true richness. It's about relishing the unhurried moments that embrace our souls, granting us a profound sense of fulfillment.

"The New Rich" isn't solely about financial affluence but encompasses the freedom to craft a life aligned with our values. It’s about having enough to meet our needs without drowning in overindulgences. This paradigm shift reflects a life where time is our true luxury – a life where slow mornings and the liberty to pursue our passions take precedence over the relentless pursuit of material wealth.

Moreover, this newfound wealth isn’t just about financial resources; it’s about time freedom. It's about listening to our bodies and honoring our need for rest or leisure without feeling enslaved by the traditional rat race. The true richness lies in having the autonomy to choose, to create, and to live life on our own terms.

True wealth isn’t always tangible; it resides in the intangible moments that fill our hearts. It’s the joy of spending quality time with loved ones, the satisfaction derived from pursuing our passions, and the inner peace that comes with living authentically. It’s about creating a life that resonates with purpose, finding contentment in the present, and relishing the freedom to be exactly who we are.

Let’s redefine wealth, embracing "The New Rich" that honors the richness within – the treasure trove of moments, experiences, and connections that fill our lives with meaning and abundance. Because in the end, true richness isn’t measured by what we have, but by the richness we bring into each moment, nurturing our souls and embracing the beauty of life itself.

Product Review: Willow Pump 3.0 - Total Mobility and Convenience for Nursing Moms

Not too long ago, my now 2-year-old son was nursing, and having a breastfeeding pump that was versatile and mobile was an absolute game-changer. I vividly remember those days of juggling a busy schedule, patients to see, and a little one to care for. It was during this time that I discovered the Willow Pump 3.0, a device that promised total mobility and convenience. In this review, I'll share my experience with the Willow Pump 3.0, how it eased my daily routine, and why I believe it's an essential tool for nursing moms who are on the go.

360-Degree Mobility for Active Moms

As an Orthodontist with a packed schedule, the Willow Pump 3.0 quickly became my go-to solution for breastfeeding and pumping. Gone were the days of setting reminders and finding quiet corners to pump during my work day. The Willow Pump's wearable design allowed me to pump while attending to patients, running errands, taking evening walks, or even while doing household chores. This level of mobility was a revelation; I could keep up with my responsibilities and provide the best care for my son without disruptions.

Effortless Pumping Throughout the Day

The Willow Pump 3.0's innovative continuous latch suction technology eliminated the need to constantly adjust and reposition. Once it was in place, I could focus on my tasks, knowing that it would stay secure and leak-free. This convenience was especially crucial during patient consultations, as I could engage with my patients while ensuring my son's nourishment.

Dual Pumping and Storage Options

One of the standout features of the Willow Pump 3.0 is its flexibility in pumping and storage. With a choice between self-sealing Milk Bags or Containers, moms can cater to their preferences. I found the inclusion of 24 4 oz. recyclable Milk Bags in the pump kit to be both practical and eco-friendly.

Real-Time Tracking and App Integration

Incorporating technology into the breastfeeding journey, the Willow Pump app provided real-time tracking and control over the pumping process. This feature helped me stay organized and informed about my milk production, allowing me to adjust my schedule as needed. This version is also compatible with apple watch making it a lot easier to Control your pumps, track your session, and view your history.

Cleaning and Maintenance

Cleaning is often a concern with breast pumps, but Willow 3.0 simplifies this process. The components are easy to wash by hand, and they are also dishwasher-safe. The pump's efficiency and durability also extend to its construction, making it a reliable companion for your breastfeeding journey.

Recommendation for New and Nursing Moms

As a mom who has experienced the challenges of breastfeeding while managing a busy professional life, I can wholeheartedly recommend the Willow Pump 3.0 to new and nursing mamas. The ability to pump discreetly and efficiently while on the move is a game-changer for those who seek extra flexibility. Whether you're a professional, a homemaker, or anything in between, the Willow Pump 3.0 ensures that your little one's needs are met without compromising your lifestyle.

Affordable and Accessible

While the Willow Pump 3.0 is an investment, it's worth considering the potential cost savings. The pump is covered by some insurances and can also be purchased using FSA/HSA funds. Additionally, the pump's regular cost is $550, but the brand periodically offers promotions. At the time of this review, a flash sale brings the price down to $399 with the code AFFILIATE-150, offering a significant $150 savings. Willow will also allow you to pay for the pump in installments via their website.

In conclusion, the Willow Pump 3.0 offers a modern solution for modern moms. Its 360-degree mobility, dual pumping options, and app integration make it a versatile and practical choice. As a mom who has experienced the benefits firsthand, I encourage you to consider the Willow Pump 3.0 for a seamless and empowered breastfeeding journey. Please note that prices and promotions mentioned in this review are accurate at the time of writing and are subject to change by the manufacturer. Always check the manufacturer's website for the latest information and deals.

4 Reasons Why Cruises Are A Great Option For Your First Vacation with the Kids

While child-free vacations can serve as a much-needed reprieve from the stress of parenting, there’s still nothing like going on a family trip with your kids. As discussed in a previous blog post on ‘24 Months Being A Mom’, parenthood is a constant balancing act between tending to your personal and professional responsibilities and being able to spend quality time with your child. Traveling with your kid allows you to slow down and be present as they gain new experiences and learn more about the world around them.

 It may seem like a daunting task to plan and go on a child-friendly trip, but cruises are a great option if it’s your first time. As this article will show, several cruise lines can cater to your whole family’s needs and interests — from ensuring a stress-free experience to introducing you to unfamiliar yet memorable destinations.

1. Convenient planning

 One notable advantage of cruises is that they take the hassle out of planning a trip for multiple people, as you essentially book your transportation, accommodation, and itinerary all in one go. Carrying your luggage from one destination to another can also be tiring when you already have your kids in tow. But on a cruise, you get to unpack once and only have to organize your things again when the ship takes you back home. With little to no stress before and during your actual trip, you can focus on what matters most: exploring new sights and going on adventures as a family.

2. Onboard entertainment and activities

 When traveling as a family, there’s always the fear that kids will get bored or throw a tantrum, especially during particularly long trips between destinations. Fortunately, family-friendly cruise lines like the Royal Caribbean offer numerous kid-friendly entertainment options. For instance, its newest ship, Wonder of the Seas, houses water slides and laser tag arenas to keep kids occupied when you’re out at sea. Meanwhile, aboard the Disney Cruise Line, kids can enjoy themed attractions and dining experiences featuring beloved characters like Mickey Mouse and The Avengers.

3. Diverse cultural immersions

Beyond fun and enjoyment, taking your kids on a trip also opens them up to the rich culture and heritage of other places. This lays a strong foundation not only for children’s knowledge and learning but also for basic life skills like communication, empathy, and relationship building. In this light, Explora Journeys complements its luxurious onboard facilities with enriching and immersive cultural activities. Focusing on multi-generational journeys, the cruise line has a curated series of Destination Experiences. Whether you’re learning about Hawaiian mythology while island-hopping or exposing yourself to ancient languages and civilization on a multi-country Mediterranean journey, your cruise can help your entire family become better and more knowledgeable citizens of the world.

4. A range of price points

Regardless of where or how long you go on vacation, paying for a family trip will be costly. Fortunately, the cruise industry is diverse enough to come with a range of price points that can fit different family budgets and demographics. If you’re willing to splurge on your first-ever vacation, the luxurious Ritz-Carlton Yacht Collection comes with year-round enrichment activities designed for children and the youth. The Ritz Kids program is facilitated by a full-time youth counselor who guides your children through creative art challenges and science experiments while on board. For those on a budget, Princess Cruises has a more affordable seven-day journey to Alaska, where kids can participate in science challenges, beach clubs, and virtual scavenger hunts.

Overall, cruises are a safe and convenient travel option that allows kids to enjoy the trip to the fullest while still learning something valuable about other people, places, and cultures. If you are in search of more posts that resonate with your parenting needs and overall journey, feel free to check out the rest of The UnOrthoDoc blog.

24 Months Being a Mom & The Balancing Act It Comes With

My son, Braxton turns 2 today and I honestly do not know how to feel or act. As I sit down to reflect on the past 24 months, I am struck by how fast time has flown by, yet at the same time, how it feels like an eternity since the moment I held my little one in my arms for the very first time. Being a mother has been the most transformative experience of my life, and I am grateful for every moment of it, the highs, the lows, and everything in between.

The first year was a blur of sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and trying to figure out what my baby needed. It was a time of immense joy, but also of immense vulnerability and insecurity and tiredness! I was tired all.the.time. I constantly second-guessed myself and worried that I was doing something wrong. But with time, I learned to trust my instincts and believe in my abilities as a mother, and like everyone advised - it did get better.

The second year has brought new challenges and new joys. My little one is now a toddler, and I am constantly amazed by how much he has grown and changed. He is curious, adventurous, fiercely independent, and the dude is hilarious! Watching him explore the world around him has been a delight, but it has also meant learning to let go a little and accept that I can't protect him from everything.

As a mother, my priorities have shifted. Before my child, my focus was on my career, my social life, and my own personal goals. Now, my main focus is on my child's well-being and happiness. I have learned to be more patient, more compassionate, and more selfless. I have also learned to prioritize self-care and to ask for help when I need it.

One of the most challenging aspects of motherhood has been dealing with the guilt that comes with it. Guilt over not being a perfect mother, guilt over not being able to do it all, guilt of being away at work all day, guilt over taking time for myself. But I have also learned that guilt is a natural part of the journey, and that it's important to forgive myself and move forward.

The Balancing Act

As an orthodontist and practice owner, finding a balance between work and family life has been a constant juggling act. Before becoming a mother, my primary focus was on my career: growing my practice and providing the best possible care for my patients. My personal goals were also high priority and I enjoyed spontaneously skipping town and kicking back every couple weeks on a remote island somewhere. However, after having my child, I quickly realized that I needed to find a way to balance my professional aspirations with my responsibilities as a wife and mother. I also quickly realized that those frequent vacations would be less so and more structured and planned.

It hasn't been easy, but I have learned to prioritize and delegate in order to make it all work. I have a wonderful team at my practice who I trust implicitly, and they help to ensure that the practice runs smoothly even when I'm not there. I have also learned to be more efficient with my time and to make the most of the hours I have available to work.

However, as much as I enjoy my career, I have also come to realize the importance of slowing down and being fully present in the moments that matter. As my child grows up before my eyes, I don't want to miss out on any of the little moments that make life so sweet. I want to be there for every first step, every silly joke, and every milestone along the way.

So, I have made a conscious effort to create a more balanced life. I have learned to say no to things that aren't essential, and to focus on the things that bring me joy and fulfillment. I have learned to prioritize self-care, and to take the time to recharge my batteries so that I can be fully present and engaged with my family.

While finding balance hasn't been easy, it has been worth it. I am proud of the life I have built (and still building), and of the example I am setting for my child. I want them to know that it's possible to have a successful career and a happy family life, but that it takes work and prioritization. Ultimately, I aspire to live a slower pace of life, where I can fully enjoy and be present in the moments that matter most.

Looking back, I am grateful for every moment of this journey. The highs have been incredibly high, and the lows have been incredibly low, but through it all, I have grown and learned more than I ever thought possible. I am excited to see what the future holds, and to continue growing alongside my little one.

How to Find Work-Life Balance as a Working Parent: Tips and Tricks from an “Unorthodoc” Mom

Are you a working parent struggling to balance work and family life? Don't worry, you're not alone! Finding work-life balance can be a challenge, but there are tips and tricks that can help. As an "UnOrthoDoc" mom, I know firsthand how important it is to prioritize balance, accept help, create boundaries, and take time for yourself. Balancing work and family life isn't always easy, but with some effort and these tips, you can find solutions that work for you.

PRIORITIZING BALANCE

Let's start by discussing the importance of prioritizing balance. It's not feasible to cater to everyone's needs, so it's crucial to deliberately choose to prioritize balancing your work and family life. This entails making well-informed decisions, such as finding a job that's not overwhelming, modifying your work schedule to create a better balance, or even considering a family size that you can raise responsibly.

However, let's face it, striking a balance between work and family life can be quite challenging. This is why it's essential to have conversations with your family and gather their diverse perspectives. By asking them how they feel about your work and listening to their honest opinions, you can identify areas that require improvement and make them feel heard. Furthermore, they will understand your work situation better.

ACCEPTING HELP

Accepting help is crucial in achieving work and family life balance. It's essential to overcome the fear of asking for assistance from friends and family whenever necessary. Whether it's picking your kids from school or taking them to their extracurricular activities, having someone you can trust to support you with these tasks can significantly ease your burden.

CREATING BOUNDARIES

Prioritizing boundaries is essential for balancing work and family life. It's crucial to draw clear lines that protect both aspects of your life from distractions. You can establish rules such as avoiding work-related phone calls during meals or not checking emails while on vacation. This approach will demonstrate to your family that they are a priority while also safeguarding your work.

Of course, it's impossible to achieve a perfect balance between work and family all the time. Sometimes, work obligations or family emergencies will require you to make sacrifices. However, it's important not to let this imbalance become a norm. Try to take every opportunity to bring the scale back to the center and maintain equilibrium.

TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Prioritizing self-care and taking time for yourself is essential to achieving a balanced life. Don't forget to schedule time for relaxation and rejuvenation, whether that's through exercise, binge-watching your favorite TV show, or enjoying a walk in the sunshine. Taking vacations can also be a great way to recharge.

It's important to keep in mind that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to balancing work and family life. What works for one person may not work for another. By implementing some of these tips and making an effort to find solutions that fit your specific needs and preferences, you can achieve greater balance.

If you're interested in learning more about living an "UnOrthoDoc" life as a mom, check out my blog for additional insights and inspiration.

THE BALANCING ACT:

Being an orthodontist and owning a practice means that finding balance between work and family life can be quite challenging. Before having a child, my primary focus was on growing my practice and achieving my personal goals. I enjoyed being able to travel on a whim and take time off for myself. However, after becoming a mother, I quickly realized that I needed to find a way to balance my professional aspirations with my responsibilities as a wife and mother.

It has not been an easy journey, but I have learned to prioritize and delegate tasks to make it work. I have a great team at my practice who I trust, and they help ensure that things run smoothly even when I'm not there. I have also become more efficient with my time and try to maximize the hours I have available to work.

While I take pride in my career, I have also come to understand the importance of slowing down and being present in the moments that matter. I don't want to miss out on my child's milestones or the little things that make life worthwhile. To achieve this, I make a conscious effort to create a more balanced life. I focus on things that bring me joy and fulfillment, and I have learned to say no to things that aren't essential.

It has been a worthwhile journey, and I am proud of the life I have built for myself and my family. I want my child to understand that it is possible to have a successful career and a happy family life, but it takes work and prioritization. I look forward to continuing this journey and living at a slower pace, where I can savor and appreciate the most important moments in life.

Leading an “UnOrthoDoc” Life and How You Can Too

You probably landed on my blog or have been a long time reader and wondered, what does she even mean by The UnOrthoDoc? UnOrthoDoc is a word I totally made up that became sort of my personal brand. By my definition, it is (n) someone who does not subscribe to stereotypes of what he/she should be, do or look like (adj): Contrary to what is usual; different. It is a play on words, taken from the word Unorthodox meaning to be different. It does help that I am an Orthodontist (Ortho); a doctor (doc). But, you do not have to be a doctor at all to embody this. Therefore, by definition, you may also be UnOrthoDoc. You’re part of the club, sis, Grab your t-shirt!

After I explain what it means to be UnOrthoDoc, this usually leads to the follow-up question: What’s an UnOrthoDoc life(style)? Simply put, it is creating and designing a life that YOU love. Sometimes, that can look different than the one that is expected of you.

The more you can live a life that feels right, instead if the one you feel is expected, the happier you will be.

Yes, I am an Orthodontist. This is my career, the one that took me 10 years of school and plenty of student loans to accomplish. This is my 9-5. I have my own Orthodontic practice in downtown Washington,DC where I create/perfect smiles 3, sometimes 4 days per week. As much as I love doing this, and as much satisfaction it gives me to watch someone’s self esteem improve over time, it is not the only thing I love. I am not only an Orthodontist. It is simply what I have been formerly trained to do.

I consider myself multi-passionate. In doing Orthodontics I have developed an affinity for aesthetics that go beyond just perfectly aligned teeth but one that extends to facial aesthetics and thus I have expanded my expertise to that space creating a quasi-med spa with my husband as an adjunct to my Orthodontics practice. I co-founded a dental non-profit with the mission to provide dental services for individuals without access to care, and although I am no longer part of that organization my values remain the same and so I have chosen to focus those efforts on my home country, Jamaica. I love writing and have had several blogs since 2008. I love educating my readers, sharing knowledge, experiences, tips and information that I come across that would help you as much as it helps me and I love that it comes with the added perk of a little extra income each month. I enjoy creating divinely scented candles and have been doing this since 2012. The process is very therapeutic and I really love coming up with new scents every month. I may even develop different or new loves and passions in the future (because as we know, things do change and it is okay to change your mind). However, all these endeavors, which happens to be businesses of their own feeds a different part of me.

If I am being totally honest, there are periods where I feel a pull more towards one over the other. There are periods where I prefer to be blogging over aligning teeth, smoothing out wrinkles and fine lines over writing and there are times where all I want to do is concoct fragrances and make graphics for social media on canva. It’s just like that. Our passions typically tend to be on the creative side and does not usually pay the bills, unfortunately and you are lucky to find this combination. So here’s my first advice:

1. Build a career around what you’re good at, while pursuing your passion(s) on the side. Once the income from your passion exceeds the income you get from your day job, that’s when you can decide to pursue your passion (if that’s what you want). Until then, keep working at it.

I have been asked before, “If you weren’t an Orthodontist what would you do/be?” My answer is why do I have to choose? I can be an Orthodontist, blogger, chandler and anything I decide to do. If my blogging income were to surpass my income from Orthodontics I would consider slowing down in my Orthodontics practice and devote more time to blogging. I love it! It is a great marriage of creativity, writing, and helping. My answer almost always leaves people confused. “Why would you be doing this when you’re an Orthodontist? a doctor?! It makes no sense,” “why would she chase pennies for blogging when she makes real money being an Orthodontist?” are some of the things I overhear. We have been conditioned to equate success with money. Money is a tool. Money pays the bills. If money weren’t in the equation I would do Orthodontics in half the amount of time I do it now and for people who are in need. This brings me to my next set of advice:

2. Find your purpose - I understand this sounds cliché, but hear me out. Your purpose fuels and fulfills you and this is very different from your goals. Nowadays everyone is busy accomplishing. Everyone is setting goals and achieving them, always aiming higher - myself included. You may have goals of buying a house or starting a business but purpose takes those goals to a higher level. In my opinion, there are two things that prevent us from finding our purpose:

• Our need for stability and certainty: The need for stability and predictability is one of our deepest human needs. Routines help us conserve mental energy, and staying in our comfort zones can keep us from feeling anxious and getting hurt – emotionally and physically. But it also prevents growth. It keeps us in unfulfilling jobs and unhealthy relationships, and thus prevents us from finding purpose.

• Limiting Beliefs: The stories we tell ourselves about who we are can either hold us back or propel us toward fulfillment. Limiting beliefs – that we can’t do certain things, that we’re not good enough, that nobody will take us seriously, that this or that thing is what we are supposed to do or what is expected of us, that we don’t deserve to be happy – lead to limiting behaviors like fear of failure and self-sabotage. Believing that we have no limitations in life gives us the confidence to find our purpose.

3. Be honest with yourself about what you want your life to be, look and feel like: We all tell ourselves stories. They explain our emotions. They give meaning to our lives. They tell us how to react to certain situations and give us patterns to fall back on when we’re not sure what to do. But are we telling ourselves the whole story? Are we being honest with ourselves? If something feels “off” in our life – our relationship is losing passion, we’re not excited about our career or we feel busy but not productive – we may need to learn how to be honest with ourselves. Here’s how:

• Be vulnerable: There is nothing more courageous than allowing ourselves to be vulnerable. Absolute courage and vulnerability is one of the Five Disciplines of Love– and that includes self-love. Be willing to face fears head on.

• Reflect on your decisions: Taking time out each day to reflect can not only help us be honest with ourselves, but can make us feel more fulfilled and grateful. Try writing in a journal at the end of each day, answering questions like, what did I do right today? What can I do better tomorrow? How did my actions help me reach my ultimate goals – or prevent me from reaching them? When we write down our thoughts, it’s much harder to lie to ourselves.

• Picture your future: Dreaming of our ideal future can often provide more clarity on what we really want. When we are 90 years old and sitting in our rocking chair, what will be our biggest regret in life? What will give us the most fulfillment? When we frame our life this way, we begin to see what really matters to us.

• Develop self awareness: Have you ever told someone, “You know me better than I know myself”? It may be true. Others see things in us that we aren’t able to see, but if we’re willing to ask for outside opinions, we can become more self-aware. When we become aware of our own patterns – when we know why we are the way we are – we can finally begin to be honest with ourselves.

4. Be intentional about living that life: Intentional living is a lifestyle that encourages us to define our priorities, get clear on what we want from life and live each day in alignment with these priorities. In simple terms, living intentionally means deciding what we want from life and going for it! Instead of chasing our tails and struggling with life in the fast lane, we’re seeking out a life of purpose, direction, clarity, peace and joy instead. A life on our terms instead of a life dictated to us by our schedule or To Do list.

5. Ignore the haters: People dislike others who are different from them, or those who are more successful than them.

I hope this resonated with you. Consider supporting my blog by visiting the shop and making a purchase, like a journal or planner and don’t forget to grab your t-shirt. You are in the club now, afterall. At the very least, share this article with someone you think may resonate with it too.

Father's Day Gift Guide

Father’s day is June 19th this year and since my gift guides have become quite popular I have decided to create one for dad, too. Unlike me, my husband will be celebrating his 2nd Father’s Day this year (our son was born at the end of May). I have to admit, growing up my dad always received the cliché dad gifts from me and my siblings - a tie, mug and cheesy DIY card. I always felt like dads didn’t care much about Father’s day until my husband said otherwise. So here we are! I am rounding up a few amazing gift ideas for the dad/father figure in your life.

1. Packing Cubes - Hey, guys like to be organized too when they travel and if he isn’t hip to these yet he will be! ask me how I know.

2. Bose Speaker - My husband loves his bose speaker and takes it with him on vacation, to outdoor family picnics or to just chill in the backyard. It’s great for having your own little personal jam session. It’s loud enough to feel like you’re having a personal party but quiet enough to not disturb your neighbors or beach/vacation mates.

3. Bose headphones - If you’re hubby/dad is a music lover then he will appreciate great quality headphones. Bose has the best ones.

4. Record Player - Such a fun device to have. When hubby is feeling nostalgic he throughs a record on, grab a glass of whiskey, a cigar and vibe out. Great gift.

5. David Yurrman Bracelets - I have a love for Yurman classic pieces, if you haven’t figured that out by now. They are so sophisticated. My husband wears this cable cuff and this spiritual bead bracelet all the time and has them in different colors that he switches out based on the color in his outfit.

6. Ray-Ban Sunglasses - You can never go wrong with a pair of sunnies. These are such a no-brainer and almost anyone looks great in Ray-Ban aviators.

7. Duffel/Weekender Keep All - Really nice and generous gift for hubby, dad or boyfriend. Great to take on weekend trips or to use as a hospital bag (yes, dads pack a hospital bag too). My husband loves his and uses it for short weekend getaways.

8. Tiffany Whiskey Glasses - These brandy snifters made it on my Christmas gift guide last year and I found similar whiskey glasses. These are really simple yet classy gifts for dad. If he drinks he will love these.

9. Cologne - No brainer if you can’t think of anything super unique. My husband’s fav at the moment is Bleu by Chanel. Smells amazing.

10. UnOrthoDoc Candles - The simplest, most thoughtful gift, imo are candles. Everyone loves them and you can find some really great scented ones around. Obviously I am going to recommend my own candle line - Deboniar and Allure are great for any male figure in your life.

11. Wine Chiller - We are now wine lovers and even recently joined a wine club where we get 3 bottles of specialty wine delivered to us every month. We take a bottle with us to friends homes as gifts, to the rooftop when we want to hang out with a view, on picnics etc. Needless to say, we needed a way to keep our wines chilled on out outings and found these.

12. Wine Club Subscription - Is dad/hubby a winer lover? then get him a wine subscription from sparkle-ist. We joined this wine club recently and are obsessed. We get 3 bottles of specialty sparkling wine each month from small family farms around the world. We are having fun discovering and learning about sparkling wine. It is the gift that keeps on giving.

13. Plush Microfiber Robe - Robes are always a great idea. They are super cozy and make really nice gifts for grandpa, dad, uncle, husband or brother. They’ll be wearing it all year round.

14. Electric Toothbrush - The dentist in me will not allow any gift guide to be complete without oral care goodies. Give dad the gift of good oral hygiene. Any electric toothbrush and water flosser is great, these black ones from Burst are really cool.

I hope you see something you love for dad, that father-figure in your life or for yourself. At the very least I hope this gift guide gives you some inspiration this year. Happy shopping!

Cozy Earth Mother's Day Gift Guide

One of my favorite brands is having a Mother’s Day Sale and I had to share. I was introduced to Cozy Earth several months ago and I kid you not, they have some of the best quality products I have come across in a long time. All their products are made of bamboo! The bamboo is sustainably sourced, pressed, dried, milled and spun into viscose which gives us the softest, most breathable fabrics.

I own their loungewear and it is easily the most comfortable ones I own, I practically live in them. When I am home, the jogger pants and matching pullover are my go to. I also have the kimono robe and some of their bed sheets - they are the softest sheets in my linen closet. My mother (who is of a certain age) has been living with us since my son was born and has taken over the sheets because of how breathable they are. As someone who suffers from frequent hot flashes she is loving the fabric and how cool they keep her during her sleep.

This Mother’s Day I will be getting my mom her own Bamboo sheet set and getting a few items for myself. They are having a 25-30% off sale but my code: DR.UNORTHODOC40 will get you 40% off. I plan on getting another jogger set, lounge socks, crib sheets for baby Braxton and a bath mat.

1. Plush lounge socks - Soft, breathable and moisture wicking fabric, made from viscose from bamboo. Great for lounging around home or to wear on cold flights.

2. Bamboo Joggers - My all time favorite joggers that I wear all the time. They are the most comfortable ones I own. You will love them.

3. Rib-Knit Bamboo Pants - Great for lounging or wearing to run errands.

4. Bamboo Throw Blanket - I always need a throw when I get on the couch to cover my legs. This could be used as a comfortable cover or decor for your sofa.

5. Baby Crib Sheet - I have the bed sheets myself and I think my baby deserves to sleep on soft, breathable sheets too. Will be getting this!

6. Sheet Set or Bedding Bundle - The softest, most comfortable and breathable sheets in my linen closet.

7. Plush Bath Towels - Ultra absorbant, made from 40% viscose and 60% cotton.

8. Plush Wash Cloths - Similar to the bath towels - ultra absorbent, made from 40% viscose and 60% cotton.

9. Short sleeve Bamboo Pajama Set - Rated “softest ever” by Oprah! I am sure this is super soft since it is made of 100% viscose. The shorts and short sleeve top makes it great for the spring and summer months

10. Stretch Knit Bamboo Kimono Robe - I have this and love it! Made of 100% viscose and VERY soft.

As with all the products I review, I personally own some of these and honestly love them. Whether for your mom, mom friend or yourself I am sure you will love these items.

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My Favorite Mommy Accessory: Tushbaby Carrier

If you’re in my friend circle or follow me on social media, you would know just how much I have been loving my newest mommy accessory, the Tushbaby carrier. I have raved about it since I got it last week.

My baby boy Braxton turned 10 months recently. At his 9 month pediatrician appointment he weighed roughly 25lbs. He is in the 96th percentile in both height and weight for his age. Needless to say, it has been quite the ordeal to hold him for any extended period of time. This is why I was ecstatic when one my company reps and friend told me about tushbaby and how much it helps her carry her little girl around. I got it immediately and have been in love since.

If you have an infant or toddler I’m sure you’ll love this product too. You can actually use it from birth up to 36 months (or 45lbs) and it can be worn in four different ways.

Wearing the TushBaby is very comfortable, and it’s easy to put on. You simply wrap the TushBaby around your body, above the hips, and secure the velcro as well as the buckle. It feels very secure and with the heavy-duty velcro, it’s not going anywhere! Then you simply set your child on the seat. You can place your child in a feeding position, face to face, front facing or side carrying. I mostly carry Brax face to face (he loves laying on mommy’s chest) or side carrying. His weight is more evenly distributed through my back when wearing the carrier than when I simply carry him on my hip. The anti-slip fabric patch on the seat keeps him in place, and keeps his legs in a good, wide position which is important for his hip development.

Four Ways to Wear Tushbaby

When I have him in the carrier, I do need to hold onto him with one arm to make sure he doesn’t tip backwards, but it’s still significantly less difficult than supporting all his weight on my hip and arm.

TushBaby has multiple storage compartments which makes it even more handy! There is a front pocket which is the perfect size for my small wallet, phone and anything you need within easy reach.

There’s another really big pocket underneath the seat where you could store a variety of items. I carry my wallet, keys, a small pack of wipes, a bottle, toys, etc. There’s also a mesh pocket in the back.

In my opinion, TushBaby is a great option for parents with young children! From birth through toddlerhood, it is a product that can serve many purposes and stages.

Quite a number of my friends got the carrier after I raved about it to them, so I left a great review on their website and reached out to the brand for a discount code and they happily obliged. Purchase from TushBaby and use the code UNORTHODOC to save 15% on your order.

Come back and tell me how you like it!

Mother's Day Gift Guide

Mother’s Day is different and extra special this year because it will be my first! I always have a lot of fun picking out thoughtful gifts for my mom, sister and mom friends but never have I been on the receiving end of things. I love receiving gifts! (perhaps it’s one of my love languages) and I equally love giving them, so I have rounded up a few gift ideas for the mommas in your life. These items are things that I either have, would want for myself or things that are on my “wishlist.” You might even see something that you want to grab for yourself!

1. The Always Pan - You must’ve seen these all over Instagram, they are all the rave because it’s a do-it-all pan designed to replace eight traditional pieces of cookware. They are also very good looking pans that add a bit of decorative flair to your kitchen. They also come in over 10 colors.

2. David Yurman Bracelets - I love Yurman pieces. They are sophisticated, classy, stylish and I love that they look amazing when you mix, match or layer several styles. I personally love pieces from the cable classic collection. These stack well with the oval link bracelet.

3. Mama Pendant Necklace - Definitely getting this as a gift to myself. I love how dainty and cute it is.

4. Hermes Geta Bag - Summer is coming and I love a great statement accessory, like this Hermes Geta Bag. It is uniquely designed and has the right amount of pop! A bit on the pricey side but makes a great gift. New mommas, if you didn’t get a push present this is it.

5. Chanel Blue Tweed Flap - Again, love a good accessory. The tweed is classy and I love the colors in this purse for Spring. But honestly, any classic Chanel flap is a great gift regardless of color.

6. Baccarat Rouge 540 - Perfume is a no-brainer! Whenever I am in a pinch and can’t think of anything this is always my go-to. In love with this scent from Baccarat at the moment.

7. Satin Pajama Jet - Can never go wrong with a luxe pajama set. I love the animal print on this one but it also comes in a variety of colors.

8. Birdies Slides - Luxury for your feet. These slides are classy, comfy, cute and comes in 2 colors.

9. Electric Toothbrush + Waterflosser - The dentist in me will not allow any gift guide to be complete without oral care goodies. Give mom the gift of good oral hygiene. Any electric toothbrush and water flosser is great but I love the rose gold ones from Burst.

10. UnOrthoDoc Candles - The simplest, most thoughtful gift, imo are candles. Everyone loves them and you can find some really great scented ones around. Obviously I am going to recommend my own candle line - I really do hope you give them a try!

11. Monogrammed Trinket dish - Love these trinket trays for jewelry or as a catch-all for random things like hair pins, hair ties and buttons. They are pretty and will look great on mom’s vanity.

12. Dior lipstick - In addition to diamonds, I believe lipstick s a girl’s best friend! Pair a great lippie with any of the items listed to round out your gift.

13. Amber Champagne Flute - I am in love with these champagne flutes from So Home Collective. The flutes are classy, sophisticated, fun AND is black woman owned. The collection ranges from the classic “The Sunday” flute, to a cute pink, an ultramodern grey to my fav - amber.

14. Designer Sunglasses - Gift me a pair of sunnies any day. They make such a great gift. Get mom a pair of chic, fun, classy designer eyewear and she’ll love you forever. Love these Dior ones.

I hope you see something you love for mom, that mom-figure in your life or for yourself. At the very least I hope this gift guide gives you some inspiration this year. Happy shopping!

How to Balance Work and Parent Life - Tips from Experienced Moms!

This is a guest post by Stephanie Shea

Balancing family and work has become an issue for modern families. It’s overwhelming and stressful, especially when you’re giving more attention to one at the expense of the other. This behavior has led to dysfunctional outcomes like strained family ties, poor physical and mental health, and inefficiency in the workplace.

Balancing these two different aspects of life is therefore essential. The process is daunting but achievable.

Here are tips from experienced moms to get you started.

Prioritize Balance

It’s pretty hard to be everything to everyone. Therefore, making a conscious decision to prioritize work and parent life balance is crucial. Most moms believe you must create opportunities for balance to avoid failing along the way. Making effective decisions about your life will make attaining balance easy, like finding a job that’s not overwhelming or thinking of a family size you can responsibly raise.

Additionally, you can make small changes here and there as your family continues to grow to achieve balance. An excellent example of a small change you can do is requesting flexible hours and reorganizing responsibilities at home.

Talking to your Family

To solve your work versus family conundrum, you’ll need different perspectives. Talking to your family to see how they feel about your work will shed light on their perceptions. They’ll be honest with you and tell you if you’re focusing too much on your work. It will allow you to be aware of areas you need to change. During such moments, try to make them understand your obligations at work.

Having such conversations will make your loved ones feel heard. Plus, they’ll see where you’re coming from as far as your work is concerned. It’s, however, essential to make these conversations constant.

Accept Help

At times, balancing work and parent life becomes difficult. Maybe you’re trying to beat a deadline, which means working till late hours. You’ve already communicated to your family how the situation is at the workplace. It’s now time to bring in help.

Most friends and family are always willing to help. Ensure you seek help from people who can be trusted to do the things you’d normally do. If it's taking your kids to practice or picking them up from school, they should be willing to do them all.

Create Boundaries

It’s essential to establish boundaries between family and work. Boundaries are imaginary lines that protect your work from family distractions while protecting your family from work obligations. It shows what’s acceptable and what isn’t. With clear-cut boundaries, you can easily tell which aspect of your life is not going in favor of your ultimate work-family life balance.

You can make rules like no work-related phone calls at the dinner table or no checking emails on vacations. It’ll make your family feel they are a priority too.

Accepting Work-Family Imbalance Is Inevitable

Are you struggling to balance work and parent life? Don’t beat yourself up; you’ll let your family or work take center stage at times. You can miss a work event when your loved one is sick or miss a couple of dinners to beat a project's deadline.

It’s, however, important not to let this imbalance become the norm. The scale may shift according to the situation at hand. Ensuring the scale moves at the center always should be your top priority any chance you get.

Take Time for Yourself

Taking time off from everything-the work, the family to relax and re-energize. There's no point in pouring from an empty cup. It doesn’t have to be grand; it can be an easy fitness class, following your favorite TV series, or taking a walk to feel the sun over the lunch box. 

Going on vacations is also an excellent idea; check out these designer bags for your next vacation here. When you take good care of yourself, you’ll be better positioned to manage your busy work schedule and take care of your family, achieving a balance in the end.

Wrapping Up!

Trying to balance your work and your parenting life is not easy. There’s no right approach to finding this balance. What works for one family may not work for the other. Every family needs to zero down and find solutions specific to their needs and preference.

People who have made strides to balance between work and family life can sufficiently meet both family and work commitments. Working hard to get ahead in life is what everyone desires, but letting it override every other aspect of your life becomes a challenge. There’s nothing that’ll replace all the missed special family moments.

You can never get them back, so be sure to make time for your family even as you're stomping the workplace. Strive to achieve a balance that works best.

About The Author:

Stephanie Shea is a marketing professional who originally hails from Southeast Asia. She enjoys spending time with her family and friends by visiting various natural landscapes and hanging out on beautiful beaches. Besides nature-tripping, she’s also very passionate about writing quality content that helps in building professional relationships with people and sharing informative insights to various audiences interested in different types of topics.

Hospital Bag Packing List

I have been meaning to write this post for several months now. For a minute I thought it wasn’t necessary since I delivered my baby 5+ months ago but after receiving a few direct messages on Instagram asking what I included in my hospital bag I decided to just go ahead and put it together. So, this is for the mama’s to be who will be delivering their little bundle of joy in the near future and just want a little clarification on the necessities. It was really fun reminiscing on those preggo days getting ready for when the inevitable contractions would hit but I should mention that you really don’t need much at the hospital. They have EVERYTHING that you actually “need” – and they have plenty of it! But there are a few things that might be nice to bring to make the hospital feel a little more comforting. With that in mind, let’s get into what my hospital bag looked like!

My Hospital Bag

When packing for the hospital, first just think of it like you’re packing to go on a little trip for a few nights. Mentally go through what you’d want to have while away from home. This would include basic things like your wallet (and insurance information), a change of clothes, PJ’s and anything you would like to have to freshen up! Don’t overthink it!

I used my away Away carry-on as my hospital luggage because it’s easy to roll around, lightweight and perfect for the things I needed without having to purchase another bag. I have it in aluminium. I used one side for my stuff and the other side for baby Braxton’s stuff.

Packing list For Mom

I will say again, the hospital has everything you need so you could honestly show up empty handed and be fine. But, there are some things that are nice to have for your own comfort and others that are pretty self explanatory. I will list everything I packed below because I know how helpful it can be. I know I wanted this list when I was in your shoes!

The Basics

• Toiletries - This is a no-brainer. Pack your toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, hair brush, hair ties and anything else you would put in your toiletry bag. Some hospitals might have a few of these and a blow dryer if you need it but in my opinion you won’t have time or even be thinking about washing your hair after baby arrives.

• Glasses, contacts, contact solution – I recently had Lasik so I no longer need these but at the time of my delivery I couldn’t see a thing without my glasses (or contacts), so I was sure to grab those before leaving the house.

• Cleansing Wipes – I was in labor for about 11 hours and felt icky throughout. You don’t need it, but wipes came in handy for me to wipe the sweat away.

• Night gown – I absolutely love this night gown and even still wear mine from time to time. It has buttons down the front that make it easy to breastfeed. Keep in mind that you might want something with easy snaps/buttons so you can breastfeed or pump (if that’s what you’re wanting to do).

• Robe – You don’t absolutely need one but hospitals tend to be a bit cold. If you’re cold-natured like me a robe may help keep you warm and cozy. You’re gonna need all the TLC you can get post delivery.

• Slippers/Flip Flops – You may want to venture out of your room to get snacks, ice or simply go for a walk. You can even use it in the shower. I personally didn’t like standing in the hospital’s shower barefoot.

• Post-partum underwear – The hospital has mesh underwear that you wear over your post-partum pads (so sexy). Your regular underwear will not fit over those pads. I personally preferred my Frida mom post-partum undies as they were full coverage and comfortable. They came as part of the Frida mom post-partum kit. If that’s not your jam these high-waisted ones are quite nice and secure. I wore these a couple days after being home.

• Nursing Bras – I got a pack from amazon and they were great. I got some others that were very similar and wore them for several months post-partum.

• Nipple cream – The hospital will have some but you might want to bring your own just in case. I didn’t end up using it much in the hospital; but really needed it once I got home.

• Phone charger with a long cord to keep your phone charged. You and dad will be taking lots of pictures and videos of your little bundle.

• Snacks – If you have favs it’s helpful to pack them. The hospital where I gave birth had really good food and snacks so I didn’t need to pack my own. I remember being extremely hungry after delivery so you will want to eat!

• Going home outfit & shoes – Pack a going home outfit that would fit your 4-6 month baby bump (if you can remember that). You will still have a pooch post delivery so pack accordingly.

Post-partum

As far as postpartum things like pads and peri bottle, I really feel like that’s unnecessary since the hospital will give you plenty! They truly do have everything you need. Nevertheless I still packed the Frida mom kit that comes with a nursing gown, socks, peri bottle, ice maxi pads, disposable underwear, perineal foam and a few other things. I used up all the items given to me by the hospital (I even had more left over for when I got home). I depleted this before using the items from my Frida mom kit. I especially loved how soothing the Ice Maxi pads and perineal foam were.

Packing list For Baby

Once again, the hospital has and will give you everything you need. However, I felt better taking baby’s own things to use. Here’s all I packed for Braxton:

• Receiving blankets/swaddles - I really love these swaddles and so did Braxton! A lot of fun colors to choose from this brand. We still use this personalized blanket and it is Braxton’s favorite.

• Newborn diapers and wipes - You will get more than enough diapers at the hospital but if there is a brand hat you love take those with you. I loved the Dyper brand as well as Huggies for both diapers and wipes.

• Pacifiers & Pacifier Clips - Your baby has entered a whole new world and might be fussy so pacifiers can he helpful to soothe. Braxton was particular fussy after his first shots.

• Baby formula - My milk production wasn’t the best at the hospital so as to not have Braxton starve I supplemented with formula. Pack some just in case, you never know! The hospital does have these however so If you don’t pack some and end up needing it you will be taken care of.

• Infant car seat - You will not be allowed to leave the hospital without an infant car seat. Have your significant other bring this to the hospital room with you on the day of discharge. The doona is great as it is an all-in-one stroller and car seat.

• 1-2 going home outfits – Make sure it’s an outfit with legs so baby can fit in a car seat. If you have room, maybe pack a few different sizes? The outfits we brought for Braxton were HUGE on him.

• Socks for keeping baby’s feet warm.

• Hat – To keep baby’s head warm. You will get some at the hospital but sometimes you want your own.

Packing list For Dad

Since Dad will be in the hospital just as long as you are, make sure he packs a bag too! He just needs his usual toiletries, some clean clothes and underwear, and then a going-home outfit. Plus, the usual things like wallet, phone charger, etc. Reggie mostly wore sweatpants and comfy clothes while we were at the hospital so that he could stay as comfortable as possible. Here’s his list:

• Lounge clothes for wearing around the hospital

• Toiletry bag with toiletries- toothbrush, toothpaste, hairbrush and perhaps a razor for beard/head trimming.

• Underwear and pajamas

• Robe, Slippers/slides for wearing around the room

• Going home outfit and shoes

• Phone charger, wallet

• Headphones – not necessary but might be nice for him to have for those moments when mommy and baby are asleep.

• Blanket & Pillow – The couch/bed they put your husband on isn’t great and it might be nice for him to have his own blanket and a pillow. These are not necessary but adds a layer of comfort.

If you’re a mom to be, rest assured that everything will be fine! If you don’t have the things on this list that is totally okay because the hospital will have it all. Wishing you a safe delivery and a speedy recovery period.