24 Months Being a Mom & The Balancing Act It Comes With
My son, Braxton turns 2 today and I honestly do not know how to feel or act. As I sit down to reflect on the past 24 months, I am struck by how fast time has flown by, yet at the same time, how it feels like an eternity since the moment I held my little one in my arms for the very first time. Being a mother has been the most transformative experience of my life, and I am grateful for every moment of it, the highs, the lows, and everything in between.
The first year was a blur of sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and trying to figure out what my baby needed. It was a time of immense joy, but also of immense vulnerability and insecurity and tiredness! I was tired all.the.time. I constantly second-guessed myself and worried that I was doing something wrong. But with time, I learned to trust my instincts and believe in my abilities as a mother, and like everyone advised - it did get better.
The second year has brought new challenges and new joys. My little one is now a toddler, and I am constantly amazed by how much he has grown and changed. He is curious, adventurous, fiercely independent, and the dude is hilarious! Watching him explore the world around him has been a delight, but it has also meant learning to let go a little and accept that I can't protect him from everything.
As a mother, my priorities have shifted. Before my child, my focus was on my career, my social life, and my own personal goals. Now, my main focus is on my child's well-being and happiness. I have learned to be more patient, more compassionate, and more selfless. I have also learned to prioritize self-care and to ask for help when I need it.
One of the most challenging aspects of motherhood has been dealing with the guilt that comes with it. Guilt over not being a perfect mother, guilt over not being able to do it all, guilt of being away at work all day, guilt over taking time for myself. But I have also learned that guilt is a natural part of the journey, and that it's important to forgive myself and move forward.
The Balancing Act
As an orthodontist and practice owner, finding a balance between work and family life has been a constant juggling act. Before becoming a mother, my primary focus was on my career: growing my practice and providing the best possible care for my patients. My personal goals were also high priority and I enjoyed spontaneously skipping town and kicking back every couple weeks on a remote island somewhere. However, after having my child, I quickly realized that I needed to find a way to balance my professional aspirations with my responsibilities as a wife and mother. I also quickly realized that those frequent vacations would be less so and more structured and planned.
It hasn't been easy, but I have learned to prioritize and delegate in order to make it all work. I have a wonderful team at my practice who I trust implicitly, and they help to ensure that the practice runs smoothly even when I'm not there. I have also learned to be more efficient with my time and to make the most of the hours I have available to work.
However, as much as I enjoy my career, I have also come to realize the importance of slowing down and being fully present in the moments that matter. As my child grows up before my eyes, I don't want to miss out on any of the little moments that make life so sweet. I want to be there for every first step, every silly joke, and every milestone along the way.
So, I have made a conscious effort to create a more balanced life. I have learned to say no to things that aren't essential, and to focus on the things that bring me joy and fulfillment. I have learned to prioritize self-care, and to take the time to recharge my batteries so that I can be fully present and engaged with my family.
While finding balance hasn't been easy, it has been worth it. I am proud of the life I have built (and still building), and of the example I am setting for my child. I want them to know that it's possible to have a successful career and a happy family life, but that it takes work and prioritization. Ultimately, I aspire to live a slower pace of life, where I can fully enjoy and be present in the moments that matter most.
Looking back, I am grateful for every moment of this journey. The highs have been incredibly high, and the lows have been incredibly low, but through it all, I have grown and learned more than I ever thought possible. I am excited to see what the future holds, and to continue growing alongside my little one.
Last year, I shared a milestone that was both exciting and emotional for our family: my son Braxton starting Pre-K for the very first time. If you missed that story, you can read it here.
This year, we’ve hit another milestone, Braxton has officially started Pre-K 4. And let me tell you, what a difference a year makes! The growth, changes, and even the challenges we’ve seen over the past year have been eye-opening.
Growth We’ve Seen
In just one year, Braxton has blossomed in ways we couldn’t have imagined.
Advanced vocabulary: His teachers continue to remark on how well he communicates. We’ve always been intentional about speaking to him in full sentences and encouraging conversation, and it shows. He comes home using new words and phrases daily, and sometimes even surprises us with how articulate he’s become.
Confidence in the classroom: Last year, he was the “new kid” navigating school for the first time. This year, he’s stepped into the role of class leader. He’s more comfortable, more vocal, and even helps his younger classmates when he can.
Love of learning: From storytelling to counting games, Braxton has fully embraced the joy of learning. It’s such a gift to watch his curiosity unfold in real time.