24 Months Being a Mom & The Balancing Act It Comes With

My son, Braxton turns 2 today and I honestly do not know how to feel or act. As I sit down to reflect on the past 24 months, I am struck by how fast time has flown by, yet at the same time, how it feels like an eternity since the moment I held my little one in my arms for the very first time. Being a mother has been the most transformative experience of my life, and I am grateful for every moment of it, the highs, the lows, and everything in between.

The first year was a blur of sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and trying to figure out what my baby needed. It was a time of immense joy, but also of immense vulnerability and insecurity and tiredness! I was tired all.the.time. I constantly second-guessed myself and worried that I was doing something wrong. But with time, I learned to trust my instincts and believe in my abilities as a mother, and like everyone advised - it did get better.

The second year has brought new challenges and new joys. My little one is now a toddler, and I am constantly amazed by how much he has grown and changed. He is curious, adventurous, fiercely independent, and the dude is hilarious! Watching him explore the world around him has been a delight, but it has also meant learning to let go a little and accept that I can't protect him from everything.

As a mother, my priorities have shifted. Before my child, my focus was on my career, my social life, and my own personal goals. Now, my main focus is on my child's well-being and happiness. I have learned to be more patient, more compassionate, and more selfless. I have also learned to prioritize self-care and to ask for help when I need it.

One of the most challenging aspects of motherhood has been dealing with the guilt that comes with it. Guilt over not being a perfect mother, guilt over not being able to do it all, guilt of being away at work all day, guilt over taking time for myself. But I have also learned that guilt is a natural part of the journey, and that it's important to forgive myself and move forward.

The Balancing Act

As an orthodontist and practice owner, finding a balance between work and family life has been a constant juggling act. Before becoming a mother, my primary focus was on my career: growing my practice and providing the best possible care for my patients. My personal goals were also high priority and I enjoyed spontaneously skipping town and kicking back every couple weeks on a remote island somewhere. However, after having my child, I quickly realized that I needed to find a way to balance my professional aspirations with my responsibilities as a wife and mother. I also quickly realized that those frequent vacations would be less so and more structured and planned.

It hasn't been easy, but I have learned to prioritize and delegate in order to make it all work. I have a wonderful team at my practice who I trust implicitly, and they help to ensure that the practice runs smoothly even when I'm not there. I have also learned to be more efficient with my time and to make the most of the hours I have available to work.

However, as much as I enjoy my career, I have also come to realize the importance of slowing down and being fully present in the moments that matter. As my child grows up before my eyes, I don't want to miss out on any of the little moments that make life so sweet. I want to be there for every first step, every silly joke, and every milestone along the way.

So, I have made a conscious effort to create a more balanced life. I have learned to say no to things that aren't essential, and to focus on the things that bring me joy and fulfillment. I have learned to prioritize self-care, and to take the time to recharge my batteries so that I can be fully present and engaged with my family.

While finding balance hasn't been easy, it has been worth it. I am proud of the life I have built (and still building), and of the example I am setting for my child. I want them to know that it's possible to have a successful career and a happy family life, but that it takes work and prioritization. Ultimately, I aspire to live a slower pace of life, where I can fully enjoy and be present in the moments that matter most.

Looking back, I am grateful for every moment of this journey. The highs have been incredibly high, and the lows have been incredibly low, but through it all, I have grown and learned more than I ever thought possible. I am excited to see what the future holds, and to continue growing alongside my little one.