The Mommy Truck: My Top 5 Picks
I was absolutely not in the market for a new car. I loved my small SUV, It was perfect for me and seemed to fit a carseat pretty comfortably. However, shortly after the birth of my son I quickly realized that I did not have quite enough space for all the things that I now needed.
Planning for the arrival of a new baby is one of the most exciting times of our lives!
I won’t lie, although exciting it was also nerve wracking and daunting, seeing as though we would be first time parents. There were so many things to think about, from designing a nursery to ensuring we had all the necessary items, that often we overlook some of the basic things like transportation. A newborn means an extra person, and this extra person (although very tiny) has an exorbitant amount of STUFF.
I was absolutely not in the market for a new car. I loved my small SUV - a Porsche Macan. It was perfect for me and seemed to fit a carseat pretty comfortably. However, shortly after the birth of my son I quickly realized that I did not have quite enough space for all the things that I now needed. Who knew a stroller (and all its parts), a car seat, baby luggage and my mom (or nanny if you have one) would take up so much space?
After too many times of having to pack, un-pack and re-pack the car so that everything could fit, I finally decided to purchase a bigger vehicle - my mommy truck.
The first thing to consider about your vehicle when you have a new baby on the way is the size. A baby car seat is not just a comfy chair for your tot but also a legal requirement. It helps to note also that you will be maneuvering the car seat in and out of the car quite often so you will need ample room for that.
My Top 5 Picks
My husband and I spent some time doing our research on different vehicles. My portion of the research involved talking with other moms to see the pros and cons of their vehicles then looking at the style and size of the ones that I liked. Hubby on the other hand, took a lot more into consideration.
After some time of visiting dealerships and test driving a few options. I decided on my top 5 (in no particular order):
Porsche Cayenne
Range Rover Sport
Mercedes GLS
Tesla Model X
Genesis GV80
Having a reliable car is paramount when you have a young family. What you are looking for is a vehicle that has excellent service history. Also, children, and especially young kids, come with a lot of accoutrements. In the early years, there will be the aforementioned baby carseat but as they age, you will need to fit booster seats. So, you need a vehicle that is adaptable to your children’s needs. It is also worth bearing in mind the fact that your kids will have friends, so you may need even more space to fit them in so that you can take them to their activities.
Ultimately, I decided on the Porsche Cayenne. I love Porsche! My previous truck was a Porsche and I was very sad to have to part ways with it because of it’s size. What I simply did was upgrade to the larger truck. The Cayenne is fun and exhilarating to drive, yet can be used as a practical SUV every day. It's a solid SUV that has great performance and a good degree of practicality. Right from the start, the Cayenne came loaded with technology designed to produce a luxurious ride combined with the nimble and responsive nature of a sports car. We love that the Cayenne is an excellent blend of off-road capable, family carrier and twisty corner master.
BONUS: There’s one other vehicle that quite a bit of parents raved about so I figured I’d give it an honorable mention. It’s the Honda Odyssey, a minivan so practical that it is all the rave among the more seasoned parents. I am told “It will change your life!” I am not a fan of the minivan, at least not yet. I am willing to forego this for the foreseeable and continue to make the most of the one I’ve chosen.
As we have learned, there are many things to consider regarding your car when you have a baby on the way. Having a reliable vehicle is crucial as you cannot afford any mishaps with a youngster on board and you need to ensure that it is of a suitable size for them to grow into, and also for the possibility of another child on the way. Make sure it is adaptable to all their needs. It helps too that is super cool and fun!
Lastly, here’s a financial tip: It’s a write off. If you own a business and use your vehicle for that purpose more than 50% of the time, you can write off 100% of the purchase price and any expenses associated with it on your taxes. Note that any vehicle used for business purposes should be at least 6000 pounds to qualify for a write off. Speak to your trusted CPA about this option if you’re considering going this route.
What are your top picks? Drop them in the comments below, I would love to know.
5 Secrets To Work-Life Balance
These days, especially with some of us working from home it seems almost impossible to have a little separation between your career and your life. In fact, for many people, their career is their life. But it doesn't have to be that way. Being happy and fulfilled requires making time for yourself just as much of a priority as your career.
These days, especially with some of us working from home it seems almost impossible to have a little separation between your career and your life. In fact, for many people, their career is their life. But it doesn't have to be that way. Being happy and fulfilled requires making time for yourself just as much of a priority as your career. Here are 5 secrets to a work-life balance:
Before You Say Yes, Pause - If you’re reading this there is no doubt that you are ambitious and driven and like to get things done! You also may feel like you can handle anything thrown at you. I am the same. While this all might be true, it’s important that you are careful to not take on too much. Time is a limited resource, saying yes to everything threatens this very limited resource and can often also lead to burn out. Protect your limited resources by first pausing to assess whether or not the ask is something that you really need or want to take on right now, if at all. If you are like I once was and struggle to say no, try saying things like, “Thanks for asking, let me check my schedule/calendar and get back to you.”
Manage Your Workload - Sometimes I feel like I have way too many things to do. I am constantly juggling an endless amount of balls and trying to keep them all in the air. Since having my newborn, I have come to the realization that I cannot do it all and still maintain a balance between my work and home life and that I can allow some of those less important balls to drop. Cue the checklist - I now have checklists for everything! I place things in order of priority doing the most important things first. Other items much lower on the list now gets outsourced. If it’s at work, I delegate some tasks to my office manager and at home I have learned to ask my husband for help. What I have found out is that these individuals are happy to help but they have never gotten the opportunity because I never asked.
Create Boundaries with Technology - Put the phone down! Digital burnout is a thing that a lot of us are affected by. For me this is social media and emails. I know I am not the only one that sometimes mindlessly scroll through the abyss of Instagram and Tik Tok and respond to emails after hours and on weekends. You must set boundaries where this is concerned. Instagram is a big part of my businesses - I do marketing for my Orthodontics practice and my candle company via the platform and also make partial income from it via sponsored and affiliate posts. I enjoy doing these but it also makes it easy for the line between healthy social media consumption and compulsive social media consumption to blur. What I do to combat that is set social time blocks, that is specific time(s) of the day when I go on Instagram to do a story, make a post or to engage. I also set a time limit via the apps’ time management tool to remind me when it’s time for me to close the app.
Take Your Vacation - I’m currently on vacation as I type this, but had it not been for pure exhaustion I probably would have kept going - this is also a reminder to myself. You may feel guilty about taking time off of work, especially when you have a lot going on but it’s so important. If you are like me, when you have a certain goal in mind you cannot stop until that goal is achieved. However, continuously going without a break only leads to burnout.
Take Control of Your Life - You are in the driver seat of your life! If you don’t like something, you can just decide that it doesn’t work for you and make the change. I know some things are easier said than done but, begin to work on the things that are easiest to implement. For example, if you need to get more sleep decide that you will go to bed an hour or two earlier. If there are certain things that gives you stress, figure out how to get rid of it (ie. set boundaries) or how to manage it.
There is such a thing as work-life balance and you CAN create a life that you absolutely enjoy! The key is to decide on the type of life you want to lead and take the necessary steps to achieving it. Start with the 5 steps above. I hope this helps.
Balancing Motherhood & Professional Life
Mother - of all my titles, this is the one I am most proud of. I have been a mom for just under 2 months now and It has been one of the most fulfilling journeys, but it can be exhausting.
Mother - of all my titles, this is the one I am most proud of.
I have been a mom for just under 2 months now and It has been one of the most fulfilling journeys, but it can be exhausting. Keeping a tiny human alive and well is tough! Add work into the mix, and some days I feel as though I am stretched very thin.
As a new mom who owns a business and works full-time, I can definitely say that’s it’s been hard at times to balance them both without feeling overwhelmed or guilty. There are so many things throughout the day that vie for our time and attention, that it’s easy to feel as though we’re not excelling in any of our roles, at home or at work.
The perfect work-life balance sometimes feel unattainable, but I have figured out some strategies (with the help of some other moms) that I have implemented to maintain my sanity and my purpose as a full-time entrepreneur and mom. If you’re a mom, I hope these will help you too:
1. Set a Routine.
This will obviously look different for everyone, but establishing some sort of routine can help to make things run smoothly and to stay organized.
For me, I make sure my alarm is set for a time that allows me to get myself dressed and ready for work in the mornings with ample time to bond with my baby before leaving home. My husband typically gets dressed first. He cleans and sterilizes the baby’s bottles and spends some time with our son, and I typically get a feeding session in. When the work day is complete and we both are home, my husband is the first to get cleaned up and takes the baby. He does the feeding, taking him on walks and spends some quality time while I do the prep for dinner. After we eat then I spend time with baby while my husband gets some rest for the overnight shift.
2. Prioritize Tasks.
I use checklists! Rather than thinking of all the things I need to accomplish in the near future, I focus on action items with the highest urgency, and attend to those first. I make a list of tasks to get done per day and cross them off as I go. This helps me to stay focused, organized and provides satisfaction since I am making progress and reaffirms the fact that I am indeed capable of accomplishing multiple tasks in a day, both at work and at home.
3. Work Efficiently.
When I am at work I do my best to give it my full attention and stick to a schedule. It’s hard to stay away from social media but I schedule social media breaks and set a timer so I don’t go past a certain amount of time and end up aimlessly scrolling. I also build time into my schedule (every 3 hours) to facilitate pumping.
4. Be fully present.
My baby is at the point where he sleeps and wakes every 2-3 hours for feeding then goes right back to sleep. It doesn’t feel like a good work-life balance when I’m at work for eight hours each day then only catch a few glimpses of him before I have to do it all over again.
Because of this, when my baby is awake, I am in full mom-mode; my laptop stays closed and my cell phone is put to the side. I make the most of the time we do have each day by giving him my undivided attention during our precious hours together.
5. Outsource chores.
I am still working on this one but right now, my mom and husband pitch in at home wherever they can and my office manager and clinical staff has taken on more administrative work at the office. Before I had my baby, errands didn’t seem like such a hassle. Nowadays, it often feels impossible to squeeze those tasks into an already demanding schedule.
I have since decided to take advantage of services available, like online shopping for groceries. Instacart, Amazon and Target have become my best friends as these services save us from having to go to the store.
6. Get sufficient sleep.
This is a work in progress. Nighttime sleep can be extremely unpredictable as it completely revolves around baby’s sleep schedule. I am exhausted around the clock due to the frequent wakings and feedings which, to be honest can sometimes decrease productivity.
Because getting enough rest is crucial to performing well at work, I try to take naps whenever the baby is down for a nap himself and alternate between my husband and mom who keeps the baby each night. This ensures that I get enough rest and feel energized throughout the day.
7. Reevaluate other commitments.
Learning to say “no” is important. It’s one of the things I have gotten proficient at time. Time has become even more valuable now. My advice would be to not overload your schedule and lose out on time with baby. Obviously, you don’t need to turn down every work or social opportunity, but you do want to avoid putting so much on your plate that you can’t spend time with your family.
8. Enjoy some time to yourself.
You might want to spend most of your time outside of work with your family. Even so, it’s important to sneak a little me time. What that looks like for me is spending time solo doing something that is relaxing, such as getting my hair done, getting a manicure and pedicure or getting a massage/facial at the spa. These little mini self care procedures work wonders for not only the body but mind as well. Thankfully, my husband encourages me to do this and is happy to have some one-on-one time with our baby during these times.
Working moms face a unique set of struggles. Add being a business owner to the mix and the stress level is amplified. I want to be the best mom to my child, yet my time and energy are divided between my responsibilities at home and those at work.
What I try to remind myself is that I am setting a great example for my child. Not only am I providing financially for my family, but also demonstrating what it looks like to use my professional gifts and passions. From one working mom to another, I hope these tips help you feel confident in this challenging yet fulfilling journey.